Hello my friend. I wanted to take a few minutes out during this magical time between Christmas and New Years that I refer to as “The Pressure Zone”, to give you pause and allow you to let yourself off the hook. Guess what? You don’t have to agree to change a thing this New Year! You don’t have to commit to a year of new choices, new habits, or new (fill in the blank with anything else you can think of)……nope, you can actually just keep steady on your current journey of life and still be okay. You actually don’t have to have a monumental shift in life to confirm that you are growing as a person. It really is okay to just be who you are, right here and right now. Completely okay.
Change in anything we do, or in the person that we are, comes gradually. It is a day to day living of choices and learning about life that forms what our journey looks like. Can changes and improvements be made by any one of us? Absolutely. Daily in fact. However, that is how it should occur….daily. Not in one big gigantic declaration of change, but in how we approach life every day we wake up.
There is so much out there in the world that can dictate unexpectedly how our life journey goes. There is illness, death, dark moments, etc….so no matter how much we declare we will have a different life, we really can’t control every aspect of our lives. So why pressure ourselves with what we CAN control with what are most likely unreasonable expectations?
Just live my friend. Enjoy the moments with your loved ones. Create memories that will last more than one year, but a lifetime.
So, am I saying don’t make any resolutions to change some things in your life? Absolutely not. Only you know if significant changes need to be made to have a healthier life (in whatever area needs better health)……but what I am saying is don’t put pressure on yourself to have to find something in your life that you need to let the world know you are doing differently this new year.
Get out of the “Pressure Zone”. Stay connected to your life as it is. Be present. One day at a time.
Wishing you a wonderful holiday celebration with your loved ones, and hoping you will follow your heart in all your endeavors in 2017.
Thank you for being a part of this GIHY community.
Much love from me to YOU. xo
We all know the childhood tale of “Alice in Wonderland”. We all know the scene where she slips into a rabbit hole, only to find herself in a strange, unknown world to her. A world where she doesn’t know how to navigate or maneuver in. A world that makes her feel strange and uncomfortable. A world that makes her yearn for being back in her own “normal” daily life (is there really any such thing as “normal” daily life??!!)……a world where she can be herself again.
But here is the truth for Alice (and for me and for you)….once you fall down one of life’s rabbit holes, there is no such thing as going back to the life we once knew. We are forever changed by our experiences. We are altered in a way that is hard to express sometimes. Sometimes there are no words to translate our feelings that our “rabbit hole” experience has left us feeling.
What I want you to know my friend, is that is okay. You don’t have to find the words. You don’t have to defend your feelings after your fall down the rabbit hole. You don’t have to go back to being your “old self”. That person doesn’t exist anymore. You now have a new layer of life on top of you, so how can you be back to being the person you were before your rabbit hole experience??!! Unfortunately, this will be hard for some people in your life. It makes us all more comfortable to know what to expect. When someone we know and love is affected in such a way, our first reaction is to want to love them right back to where they were before the fall down the rabbit hole. But this is just not reality.
Don’t rush your feelings. Don’t rush your need for a new “normal”. Life’s rabbit holes come to us in an instant, but it may take the rest of your life to absorb the shock and awe of your experience. But I want you to know that you will slowly but surely get more comfortable with your new layer. A layer of life you didn’t want or ever expect, but a layer that becomes part of who you are. This is real life, and real life is ugly and painful sometimes. But it doesn’t have to suffocate us. My rabbit hole didn’t suffocate me permanently and it won’t suffocate YOU!
Now, I am not naive to think that we only have one rabbit hole in our lives. No, I believe a rabbit hole can open up over and over, however, after experiencing a devastating one already, I am hopeful that if and when that time comes again, that I will let the fall take me down, but it won’t keep me down. I will always choose to find my way back “home”, and I hope you will too.
As always from my heart to yours,
This post is from last February, but after a few conversations this past week with a few different people, I thought it needed to be posted once again: http://girlihearya.com/living-through-the-darkness/
You are never alone my friend. If this post resonates with you today, please know I am sending you love.