Taking it back to a time where collars were flipped up on purpose and my hair looked like a helmet. Freshmen year (1986). You are so welcome for the laugh……make it a great day! xo
I have been so encouraged lately! Over the past couple of weeks, I have been introduced to several women who are living their lives every day in search of how best to support other women. They are starting new businesses that are centered around encouraging life transformations in women, they are sharing each other’s social media posts in hopes to give each other more exposure, they are writing words of affirmation to each other, and more importantly, they are genuinely reaching out to say, “I believe in what you are doing. How can I help you”? It is such a great thing to witness and be a part of.
We need each other girlfriends. We need to turn around and reach out our hands to the next woman behind us who may be walking a similar road. She needs your guidance. She needs your knowledge that you gained from your own experiences. She needs to know it is okay to stand still for awhile and not rush things. She needs you to tell her that change doesn’t happen overnight. She needs you to ask, “how can I help you”?
Take the time to help my friend. Remember those moments where you needed the same help. It’s now time to pass the love and support on……..
None of us are an island. None of us are ever alone.
To all you beautiful women out there loving and supporting other women, I want you to know that I see you. I want you to know that I admire you. Keep being a light! Keep loving and feel the love in return.
Guess what….you can recreate yourself as many times as you like.
No apologies or explanations necessary.
As I was washing my face last night and looking at myself in the mirror, I had this overwhelming sense of awareness of being alive and being who I am right at this very moment. Not like an “enjoy the moments” type of mantra I always talk about, no….. this was a very different feeling, and one that I have not experienced since my dark moments back in 2014. It was an awareness of my own mortality, and a deep feeling of thankfulness for everything that I am, for all the different roads that have led me to where I am, and for all the unknowns of tomorrow. As I looked in the mirror at the gray hair shining so brightly around my hairline and scalp for what seemed like a good 4-5 minutes, I couldn’t help but feel so thankful to have them. To be able to have gray hair, even at the age of 44, seems like such an honor. An honor that so many don’t get to experience.
I don’t know if it is all the news of people dying unexpectedly and far too young that has invoked such thoughts in me randomly, but as I fell asleep last night thinking all these profound thoughts about aging and dying, the feeling of unmatched thankfulness consumed me.
Today is not a holiday where we all become thankful for things. I have not personally experienced a life shift recently that would naturally bring on such thankfulness……no, today I am thankful just because. I am truly and deeply thankful for strictly being alive.
I don’t know why I feel like I have to share this, but for some reason I want you to know a few other things I am thankful for that would usually make me think badly about myself:
My gray hair because I still have a full head of hair.
My stretch marks because they are reminders that I have given life.
The 5 pounds I have gained since March because it means I have plenty of food to eat.
My wrinkles and age spots because it means I have laughed and enjoyed sunlight.
Yes, all of those things may seem silly to say out loud to you, but they are not silly to me. They are who I am, and I am thankful for all of those things that make me who I am. I know there will still be days where I don’t embrace those things as I seem to be doing at this moment, but for today, this overwhelming sense of thankfulness is very nice to have.
What about you my friend? What are you thankful for today on this random Tuesday in June? What are you thankful for just because? If you are having a hard time trying to figure that out, I encourage you to start with the most simple thing, yet most important of all……you woke up this morning, and you are alive. That is a great place to start, and once you start your thinking with an attitude of thankfulness, it is amazing to see how quickly our perspective changes. We see more clearly that there are SO many things to be thankful for in our lives.
I wish this feeling of thankfulness for you today my friend.
Make it a great day today!
Ashley Stock states it perfectly when it comes to my dad (who is really my step-dad, but you could never tell either one of us that since he has raised me from the age of 9….), and it certainly stands for my wonderful husband Erik, who took on my two children as his own when we married almost 5 years ago. Two very special men whom I love, respect and admire. I am certainly a lucky daughter and wife.
Happy Father’s Day to all the dads out there. No matter how you got to the place to be called “dad”, know that you matter and are very much loved! xo
Calm the fuck down everybody!!! Take a time out on all the hate. The judgement. The anger. The hurt. The need to make sure your opinion is not only heard, but agreed with! Guess what? I don’t have to agree with you, and you don’t have to agree with me. It really is okay. This is the great thing about living in a free world. But what is not okay is that when those opinions do not match, that hate and judgement become the only way of communicating. I realize there is a whole lot of hate and evil going on around us, but I do believe that we can individually do our part to counteract the bad, and I truly believe that small acts of kindness still matters. One persons act of love to another, can start a chain reaction that has the power to go on forever.
So, this weekend, if you have the urge to pass on judgement, or negative news, how about you stifle that, and find something good to post on your social media. Something that will make someone feel empowered, and loved. Something that has the power to change a life in a positive way. Take a time out from making sure your opinion is agreed with. Take a time out to just love.